In 2026 I hit a milestone that seemed like a distant, foggy dream back in my corporate days: the ten-year anniversary of my retirement.
If you want to go to the beginning and get the details on that blessed event, check out I Retired! There are some fond memories for me in that post!
Anyway, my plan to celebrate this momentous occasion is to write several “10 Things” posts about retirement.
So far, here are the articles in this series:
Retirement Habits
There’s a big difference between being retired and being good at retirement.
When I first started ESI Money, I spent a lot of time focusing on the “how” — the mechanics of earning, saving, and investing that make early retirement possible. But as I cross this ten-year milestone, I’ve realized that the “what” — what you actually do with those 2,000+ hours of free time every year — is just as critical to your ultimate ROI on life.
Mainstream financial media (you know, the people who aren’t actually retired telling the rest of us how to do retirement well) is usually wrong in two opposite ways.
First, some people treat retirement like a permanent vacation. Sleep late. Drift around. Eat out. Watch TV. “Enjoy life.” That sounds fun for about three weeks. Then the lack of structure starts eating away at you. Your body softens. Your calendar empties. Your days blur together. You lose momentum. This was my life (to an extent) in The Villages, Florida. It’s all vacation all the time!
Second, some people turn retirement into another corporate job. They optimize every hour, overcommit themselves, fill every gap, and create a life so busy that they wonder why they retired in the first place.
Great retirement lives in the middle. It has freedom, but not drift. It has structure, but not oppression. It has margin, but not aimlessness.
Over the last ten years, and through the hundreds of Millionaire Interviews I’ve conducted on this site, I’ve identified a pattern. The people who are truly winning at retirement — those with high levels of life satisfaction and robust health — don’t just wing it. They have systems. They have habits.
In short, a great retirement is built day by day, not year by year. And the building blocks of each day are successful habits.
Retirement success isn’t mainly the result of having one brilliant decumulation spreadsheet. It’s not the product of finding the world’s best dividend fund or perfectly timing Roth conversions. It’s not even the result of reaching some magical net worth where every problem disappears. If that were true, wealthy retirees would all be thrilled and middle-class retirees would all be miserable. That’s obviously not the case.
What makes retirement great is a set of repeated daily behaviors that shape your health, your purpose, your relationships, your spending, your peace, and your joy.
In other words, retirement still runs on ESI:
- Earn doesn’t disappear. It shifts from career income to value creation, usefulness, optional income, and productive engagement.
- Save doesn’t disappear. It shifts from aggressive accumulation to disciplined stewardship, margin, and conscious spending.
- Invest doesn’t disappear. It expands beyond money and includes investing in your body, your marriage, your friendships, your mind, your faith, and your community.
And here’s the good news — the habits that make retirement great are not exotic:
- They are simple.
- They are repeatable.
- They are mostly free.
- And they compound.
That last point is worth underlining. We all understand compounding in money. Put away enough, invest consistently, give it time, and the numbers do amazing things. Retirement habits work the same way. A good walk today doesn’t transform your life. A good walk nearly every day for ten years absolutely does. One lunch with a friend doesn’t save your social life. Reaching out regularly over a decade might. One disciplined spending choice is meaningless. Thousands of them protect your freedom.
“A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”
“You eat an elephant one bite at a time.”
“Drop by drop, the bucket fills.”
“One brick at a time.”
“The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.”
I could go on, but you get the idea.
We talked about this concept awhile ago when I write about the book The Slight Edge. It’s also in Atomic Habits, The Millionaire Next Door, The Automatic Millionaire, and many more great books.
It’s a well-known and well-used concept for a reason — it works.
The people who do best at retirement long term are usually not the ones with the flashiest spreadsheets or the hottest takes on safe withdrawal rates. They’re the ones who build lives they actually want to live. They create routines. They stay active. They keep learning. They remain useful. They maintain social ties. They know how much is enough.
That’s what this post is about.
I started writing this post and it just kept going and going. Therefore I’ll be breaking it into two parts so It’s not my version of War and Peace.
Below are the first four of ten daily habits that make retirement great. None of them require perfection. All of them require intention.
1. Get Moving Early
If I had to pick one habit that improves retirement faster than almost anything else, this would be near the top:
Move your body early in the day.
Walk. Swim. Lift. Bike. Stretch. Do mobility work. Take the stairs. Work in the yard. Get on the pickleball court. It doesn’t really matter what form it takes as long as it is real, regular movement.
In the accumulation (working) years, assets usually refer to stocks, bonds, or real estate. In retirement, your primary asset is your health. If your body fails, your safe withdrawal rate doesn’t matter. You can’t enjoy a $5 million portfolio from a hospital bed.
The CDC says older adults should aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic activity per week, muscle-strengthening activity on two or more days per week, and balance work as part of their routine. The agency also notes that regular activity helps older adults live independently longer, improve quality of life, and prevent or manage chronic disease. And apparently, the more variety of exercise you do, the better your health results.
None of that is shocking. We all know exercise matters. I have written about it so much that many are probably sick of hearing about it. But retirement changes the context.
When you’re working, movement can be built into the day almost by accident. You commute. You walk into offices. You carry things. You move between meetings. You have a schedule that creates some baseline momentum.
In retirement, that disappears.
If you are not careful, retirement can become physically passive in a hurry. You sit with coffee. You read. You scroll. You watch news. You answer emails. You run one errand. You sit more. Suddenly the entire day is low-output, and you feel it.
This is one reason so many retirees say they want more energy while doing fewer things that create it.
Energy often follows action more than it precedes it.
That’s why I like moving early. It sets the tone. It gets the blood flowing. It creates momentum that tends to carry into the rest of the day. It also protects the day from drift. If you wait until “later,” later can disappear.
The FIRE crowd often talks about financial independence as buying back your time. True enough. But bought-back time can be wasted just as easily as earned time. Morning movement is one of the simplest ways to tell yourself: “This day matters.”
A few practical thoughts:
- Start with something sustainable, not heroic. Again, starting small and building slowly works best IMO.
- Build around activities you enjoy enough to repeat. If you do, it’ll never be a chore.
- Mix cardio, strength, and flexibility.
- Use retirement freedom to exercise at your best time, not the only time you used to have.
- Protect your body like it’s an income-producing asset, because in a sense it is.
Here’s what I currently do:
- Swim 30 laps (counting down and back as one lap) six times a week
- After swimming I go over to the main YMCA building’s inside track and walk a mile, run/walk a mile (at an 8 to 9 minute mile pace), and walk a third mile. I do this on my day off of swimming too (Saturday, because the pool is crazy all day Saturday with kids, swim lessons, etc.)
- After the “fast mile”, I go over to the cardio area and do 5 minutes on the stairmaster (I’m building up the time as well as the intensity), then come back to the track for the last mile
- I lift weights at home three times a week. I have a dumbbell routine that I’m building up as well. It takes me about 30 minutes to complete it.
That’s my core. Add to that (less frequently):
- Pickleball
- Neighborhood walks
- Yard work
- Badminton — popular here but I’ve never played
- Racquetball — played a million years ago but the have courts at the YMCA
I also have a few I’m considering adding including pilates, yoga, tai chi, and rowing (all of which — except tai chi — are classes at our YMCA). We’ll see how it goes. I want to have variety, but I don’t want to kill myself either. lol And the “extra” stuff needs to have at least some fun built in.
I’m always skeptical when mainstream retirement advice treats exercise as a side issue, as if it belongs in the miscellaneous wellness bucket. In retirement, physical capacity is not a side issue. It is central. Your ability to travel, serve, play, hike, lift, help, and enjoy your freedom all run through your health.
Money buys options.
Health lets you use them.
2. Have a Plan for Each Day
A lot of retirees are afraid of becoming lazy. Others are afraid of becoming overscheduled. Both fears are legitimate.
The solution is not to turn retirement into a productivity contest. And it is not to wander around hoping meaningful days happen on their own.
The solution is purpose.
Not abstract, conference-speaker purpose. Practical purpose.
Each day, know what matters.
I’m not talking about a 27-item to-do list full of nonsense. I’m talking about a short purpose list:
- What do I want to accomplish today?
- Who do I want to help today?
- What would make today feel meaningful?
- What one or two things, if completed, would make this a good day?
I even have a line on Todoist that simply says, “Do two tasks.” It’s a daily reminder to be productive in some way.
The Stanford Center on Longevity has argued that traditional notions of retirement are outdated and that people increasingly need a purpose portfolio in later life rather than a mindset of total withdrawal.
That fits what I’ve seen in the FIRE community. People who retire well rarely retire from life. They retire from a job. Big difference.
They still build. They still contribute. They still engage.
Sometimes that means writing. Sometimes mentoring. Sometimes volunteering. Sometimes family care. Sometimes a side business. Sometimes church involvement. Sometimes community leadership. Sometimes simply being the dependable person who shows up.
Purpose doesn’t have to be grand. It just has to be real.
One of the myths of retirement is that if you remove work, happiness automatically floods in. Sometimes it does, especially if work was stressful, draining, political, or misaligned. But removing a bad thing is not the same as building a good thing.
If your old job gave you challenge, identity, usefulness, relationships, rhythm, and wins, then retirement has to replace those somehow or you’ll feel the loss.
That doesn’t necessarily mean you need a second career (though it could). It means your days need shape.
I’ve found that retirees thrive when they can answer three questions:
- What am I doing?
- Why does it matter?
- Who benefits?
When those answers get fuzzy, retirement can start to feel oddly thin, even when it is comfortable.
So each morning, before the day starts running on autopilot, decide what the day is for.
In addition to the Todoist reminder noted above, I have a “general” plan for every day that guarantees that something productive happens. On most days it’s this:
- Get up, feed the cat, have a glass of water and a cup of coffee, and play some challenging games/puzzles
- Stretch, get ready, and head to the gym
- Swim and hit the track (as noted above)
- Come home, eat, and begin the day
The rest of the day can then take many forms. Often it’s up in my home office writing for ESI Money or commenting on the Millionaire Money Mentors forums. Sometimes it’s a planned outing like a trip to Costco, a local mall, or some other shopping adventure. Other times it’s yard work or other tasks around the house. Or maybe a pickleball game with friends.
The morning gets the vital things done and then the late morning/rest of the day can be anything. This has been a great system for me for the past 10 years (and counting).
3. Spend on What Matters Most
Retirement is not the time to become reckless with money. It is also not the time to become a prisoner of your balance sheet.
Both mistakes are common.
Some retirees loosen the reins too much. They assume all spending is justified because “we earned it.”
Others become so conservative that they never use the freedom they spent decades creating (this is most of the wealthy people I know, including me at the start of retirement). They sit on growing accounts while denying themselves reasonable joy, generosity, convenience, and experiences.
Neither approach is wise.
This is where the Save part of ESI becomes mature stewardship.
Retirement is great when your spending supports your life. It becomes much less great when your lifestyle quietly starts dictating your financial behavior.
The daily habit here is simple: review spending choices through the lens of value, not impulse.
Ask:
- Does this expense materially improve our lives?
- Is this a recurring cost that will become permanent?
- Are we buying convenience, status, comfort, boredom relief, or actual joy?
- Does this align with what we said retirement would be?
One of the advantages FIRE people have is that most of us already know how to do this. We learned that spending is not just arithmetic. It is philosophy in action.
What gets interesting in retirement is that your filters need to evolve.
For example, I’m far more open to spending money on things that increase health, reduce friction, deepen relationships, or create meaningful experiences. I’m less interested than ever in status spending, clutter spending, or spending just because “that’s what retired people do.”
Great retirement often includes spending more freely in narrow lanes and more ruthlessly everywhere else.
That might mean:
- Paying for travel you truly enjoy (including first class upgrades)
- Investing in fitness, physical therapy, or recovery
- Making your home work better for your life
- Generous giving
- Helping family wisely
- Buying time through selective outsourcing
It probably does not mean mindless spending creep, eating out because you’re bored, unnecessary upgrades, or treating consumption as entertainment.
Use your money.
Just don’t let your money use you.
4. Connect with Others
This one gets underestimated because it feels soft, and people who like numbers often underweight soft things until they become hard problems.
Social connection is one of those areas.
I know, I know. I’ve mentioned this about 1,000 times already in other posts. But it keeps coming up because it’s VERY important. Important enough to be one of my top seven retirement activities. Besides, not everyone reads every post. And…sometimes I have to say things several times until some of you believe me. Hahahaha.
Harvard’s public health school notes that social disconnection is associated with higher risks of illness, and that loneliness and social isolation have been linked with increased risk of premature death by 26% and 29%, respectively. The National Institute on Aging likewise says loneliness and social isolation are associated with higher risks for problems such as heart disease, depression, and cognitive decline.
That’s not fluff. That’s not “nice to have.” That’s a major retirement issue.
Isolation is the silent killer of retirement. In the corporate world, social interaction is forced upon you. Work supplies a lot of social contact, even when we don’t especially like work. Once retirement begins, those default relationships can thin out quickly. You no longer see colleagues every day. You no longer have built-in lunches, hallway conversations, meetings, and casual contact. In retirement, you have to manufacture it.
And here’s the thing: many retirees don’t replace that intentionally. They assume it will just happen. It usually doesn’t.
So make connection a regular habit. Not necessarily a giant social calendar every day. Just intentional contact.
Text someone. Call someone. Meet someone. Invite someone. Encourage someone. Check in with someone.
A 2024 study found that the type and quality of social networks among older adults contributed to sense of purpose in life, with different forms of social support helping explain that connection.
Again, this matches what many in the FIRE world eventually discover. You can optimize your portfolio into a beautiful spreadsheet, but if you spend five years socially shrinking, the freedom will feel a lot less free.
Some of the best retirements I’ve seen have a strong relationship backbone:
- solid marriage
- engaged family life
- a circle of friends
- church or community involvement
- one or two regular social rhythms each week
That doesn’t mean you need a packed calendar. It means you need people.
One caution: don’t outsource your entire social life to your spouse. Couples who retire together often assume they’ve solved the companionship issue. In one sense, they have. In another, they haven’t. It’s healthy to have shared friendships and individual friendships, shared interests and individual interests.
Retirement gets better when your relational world is broad enough to support real life.
That’s it for this post. Pretty decent list so far, huh?
Stay tuned for part two coming up soon.
