I remember a time when my calendar felt like a relentless taskmaster, a never-ending list of obligations that dictated my every move. Each entry was a reminder of something I had to do, a commitment I couldn’t escape. It was a constant battle against the clock, a race to tick off boxes, and honestly, it left me feeling drained and perpetually behind. Sound familiar? Many of us, especially those driven to achieve, fall into this trap. We see productivity as a game of efficiency, cramming more into less time, and our calendars become a testament to our busyness. But what if I told you that this very tool, often seen as a symbol of our overwhelm, holds the key to unlocking a life of true creation and purpose?
This isn’t about adding more to your plate or finding new hacks to squeeze in extra hours. It’s about a fundamental shift in how you view your time and, more importantly, how you interact with your life. My friend and master coach, Josselyne Herman Saccio, has a profound way of looking at this. She challenges the very notion of “being busy” and introduces a powerful concept: being unmessable with.
Unmessable With: Beyond Toughness, Towards Creation
Josselyne defines “unmessable with” not as being tough or impervious to feelings, but as the ability to stay in a mode of creation, no matter what life throws your way. It’s about acting from your vision and purpose, rather than reacting to circumstances. Think about it: when you’re constantly reacting, you’re letting external forces dictate your actions. But when you’re creating, you’re in control, shaping your reality from the inside out.
One of the biggest roadblocks to this creative state, Josselyne points out, is the disempowering conversations we have with ourselves. Those limiting beliefs we picked up as kids, like needing to be the “best at everything” to be accepted, can hold us back. Josselyne’s own story is a perfect example. She gave up on her dream of being a singer because of a childhood belief. But once she dismantled that belief, she landed a record deal within three months. That’s the power of becoming unmessable with.
Your Calendar: More Than Just a To-Do List
So, how do you start cultivating this “unmessable with” mindset, especially when your to-do list feels endless? It begins with understanding the context of your actions. Josselyne illustrates this beautifully: a finger can be a finger, a number one, or an upward direction, depending on the context. Similarly, your tasks take on different meanings based on the context you create for them.
Most of us react to our to-do lists. We just do things because they’re there. But Josselyne suggests a radical shift: create a context for every item in your calendar. Instead of just “go to the gym,” frame it as “creating vitality by going to the gym.” This simple change transforms a chore into an act of creation. It’s about understanding why you’re doing something, not just what you’re doing.
This isn’t a magic pill. It’s a muscle you need to build. Start by noticing when you’re being reactive. Are you overthinking? Do you feel a tightness in your chest? These are your red flags. When you catch them, take a breath, and consciously shift into creation mode. Pre-create your context. Write it down. Put it on a sticky note. Tattoo it on your arm if you have to! The goal is to have a clear purpose for your actions, so you’re not relying on your brain to figure it out in the heat of the moment.
Overcoming Creative Blocks and Imposter Syndrome
What about creative blocks? Josselyne, a multi-talented artist and author, schedules her creative time. If it’s not in the calendar, it’s less likely to happen. And for those moments when the well feels dry, she suggests using AI tools to spark ideas. It’s not about letting AI do the work, but using it as a springboard to get your own creative juices flowing.
And imposter syndrome? Josselyne has a powerful antidote: remind yourself of your results. When she left Landmark after 30 years, she had to build a new business and social media presence from scratch. She felt that familiar “who am I to do this?” But by writing down every result she had ever produced, she realized the depth of her accomplishments. It’s hard to argue with facts. So, if you’re feeling like an imposter, list out your wins. It’s a powerful way to reconnect with your capabilities.
Living an Unmessable Life
Josselyne’s daily life is a testament to this philosophy. She doesn’t need motivation because she has the power of her word. Her word is her wand, creating her reality. She schedules everything, from hot yoga to intimate time with her husband, ensuring that what matters gets done. She even works with her assistants using tools like Asana, but she’s not a slave to the tools. She adapts what works for her, like the time-energy audit, and discards what doesn’t, like never touching her calendar.
So, if there’s one key takeaway, it’s this: start with your calendar. Use it as a canvas to not only create what you’re doing, but why you’re doing it. Infuse every entry with context and purpose. It’s not just a to-do list; it’s the creation of your life. And when you do that, you become truly unmessable with.
